I’m sure we have all heard a version of this before, usually said by a white person, “If we just stop talking about race, things will be better!” I’m going to tell you why that’s a terrible idea.
Your logic is bad, and you should feel bad.
That’s the type of logic that you see in diabetics who don’t take care of themselves and end up going blind or losing limbs — ignoring problems generally just allows them to fester and grow. There’s no reason you should believe that ignoring something will make it disappear. See also: default judgements
Ignoring the problem is part of the problem.
White people in the states have kept our heads buried in the sand for decades — we aren’t paying attention to how the police treat black people, we aren’t empathizing with black people, we aren’t exposing ourselves to their perspective. That’s the problem. Ignoring race, pretending that there are no historical and cultural differences between whites and blacks have only made things worse.
That’s also why black history month is so important, because our education system straight up does not ensure that all children have an understanding of the racial history of our country. Schools in the south routinely minimize the horrors of slavery and Jim Crow. And if white kids don’t understand the systemic fuckery that black people have been victims of, they believe stupid shit like racism doesn’t exist, and everyone has a equal chance at achieving the “American Dream”.
White kids might as well be living in an alternate reality from black kids, as there are serious fundamental differences to how this country treats people of different races, and ignoring those differences only allows us to continue on this path of blacks and whites living in completely different realities. Because psychologically speaking, perception shapes reality, and whites generally perceive that racism (against black people) is no longer an issue as that’s what we were indoctrinated to believe. Which shapes our decisions and the way we approach the world, which then allows the government to continue to oppress people of color unchallenged.
So no — not talking about differences is probably the worst thing we could be doing. We need to talk about those differences and realize that the story that whites have been telling ourselves is COMPLETELY different from the reality that blacks are living, and we can do nothing to change that until we realize it.