Most of us are very aware of the fact that we can spot a load of poo from a mile away. We take pride in the ability to feel when things are not quite right. We love in some sick self-loathing way, to put ourselves in the position or play the role of the victim. The problem here is that we do not take the time to realize the ability for all of us to do this, because it is actually the easiest route to take in the road of life. The most difficult thing to do, if we ever take the time to try, is to call ourselves out as the big bad wolf of the chapter in our story, because we prefer the fairy tale.
We prefer being the Prince Charming or Princess to seeing our reflection in the mirror. We don’t want to be the witch or the evil stepmother because we’re incapable of seeing the human within the villain, both in real life and our most loved and memorable fiction stories.
One of the most obvious ways Americans do this is when it comes to a long history of white supremacy and laws against Africans, Native Americans, Chinese, Japanese, etc., people in the country we all claim is the greatest in the world. We hear many of the same regurgitated one liners like, “If you don’t like it, leave”, or “What about Black on Black crime”, or “Not all of us.” We also hear things like, “Where else can you be as vocal about your dislikes without being killed or jailed”, and “Slavery is a thing of the past!”
These micro-aggressions are ingrained in our everyday lives. Hitler is someone we claim is a horrific person based on the Holocaust and the fact that American Ashkenazi Jews are the richest group in this country and somewhat control everything we receive in the media. Now I have no issue with Jewish people, I’m a whopping 3% myself, so I can’t possibly be Anti-Semitic, right? Wrong, which brings me to my main point.
Sadly, for many of us, we believe that racism has nothing to do with us, because we have people of color in our bed, family tree, or on our friends list in cyberspace and/or in real life. I think one of the most disrespectful, neglectful, and hurtful thing to hear, as a person of color, is not a derogatory term, but its hearing someone we consider, or considered at one point, an ally, brushing off the discussion of race, sex, or orientation, because of their plummeting comfort level.
If there is one thing we can all agree on, it is the fact that a discussion that makes us emotional is actually important, because there’s something painful behind that issue. Pain is essential for progression or regression, meaning, to face the issues head on or run from those mofos. This is the same in our own childhood problems that mold us, our society’s problems that made us, and our global issues that have been overlooked or painful to and by us.
The fact of the matter is that simply bedding a person of color does not mean you respect or acknowledge the entire population of people as human, nor do you understand the socio-economic imbalance, any more than a slave owner that birthed Mulatto slaves. Having black, brown, or yellow cousins, friends, or siblings does not mean that you understand the difference in their treatment or the view society has towards them, because in all honesty, most people of color have no clue the obstacles we have and will continue to face, because of our tan line, nose width, or almond eye shape. The simple act of assuming we are innocent by association is just as ignorant as guilt by association, and in many instances, far more dangerous. So many parents believe that because they do not treat their spouse or partner different based on race, the world will return the favor to their children if they simply act or dress in a respectful manner. That leaves multiracial and multicultural people at a disadvantage from childhood to adulthood. The reality of the situation is that, having a white parent will not make a mixed child white, it will simply make their Asian, African, Indigenous child a lighter version, like gray and pink are simply light black and red. We, as a society, have been taught to see and assume character, based on traits, not personality.
It takes more than the simple act of overlooking race within an exception to the rules of society, or even having your own personal set of rules, just like not believing in laws will not change them for the rest of us, until we all work together on a bigger scale. The only issue we have there is the fact that legal integration brought us more social segregation, not more understanding and acceptance. Propaganda on the boob-tube and in the papers actually remained the same and warfare became more psychological than physical, which is why we have more politically correct acts of genocide continuing the process, or the covert racism and ignorance to said racism, instead of the more obvious and overt racism in the 1950s. This is why Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton are so popular, while Jill Stein and Bernie Sanders are overlooked so easily.
Racism is not as simplistic as a word or feeling, but a systemic and political, socioeconomic, indoctrinated lifestyle. So no, the simple act of a friendship or lover or procreation is not enough to erase racism from the person or the society in which they live. Sorry, sugar tetas n britches.