People of Color are in an Abusive Relationship (with White America)

People of Color are in an Abusive Relationship (with White America)

Ever been in, or seen a relationship where one person continues to do one wrong and the one done wrong is expected to do everything right?  Have you ever witnessed a person in a relationship call the other one out on something wrong, like violence, and is coerced into silence or otherwise punished for it in some form?

Replace the white woman with a person of color and you have precisely what goes on in America concerning race relations.

The reason why I mention these things, is because a most people don’t think of the grand scheme of sociology in America.  People are more than ready to identify wrong when the individual does wrong to another individual, but fail horribly to identify when one collective of people does wrong to another collective group.

We as Americans wish to be against bullying for example, but fail to identify the continued propaganda strategy against people of color in the media, such as always noting that a non-white child “was no angel” when authority figures rob them of their basic human rights and dignity.  Quite often a black victim is more demonized in the media than white perpetrators of crime.  With numerous young white males bypassing the criminal justice system concerning rape, all the evidence is written on the tin can.

White People hate Black Protest

One of the things I noticed how white people hate black folks protesting against any form of the system of white supremacy.  I mentioned this when I collected my thoughts on tone policing.  I also pointed out how white supremacy ensures that black people don’t have freedom of emotion in America.  Black people are not allowed to even feel anyway about how racism in America oppresses, suppresses, and in some case persecutes people of color.

This brings us to the case of Colin Kaepernick.

White Comfort > Black Lives

Colin Kaepernick is a football player who decided to not stand for the American national anthem this year (2016).  Kaepernick’s logic behind his actions (or inactions) is the fact that since America does not stand up for minorities in the face of 1st world nation oppression, he will opt out of standing for the national anthem.  Colin Kaepernick’s logic, is pretty fucking sound.

“I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color. To me, this is bigger than football and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way. There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave and getting away with murder.” ~Colin Kaepernick on why he refuses to stand.

Of course, the backlash (perhaps the lash of a sociological whip from whites assuming to be at a slave master role?) was infinitely predictable.  Whiteness came out of the woodworks to anathematize this man for his harmless protest.

Interestingly, it seems like there’s no such thing as a protest that whites will support as okay or valid.  White people love to talk about Black Live Matter protests across the country.  White people love to hate on the notion of blocking freeways and main roads, as if such an inconvenience equals the oppression the protesters seek to destroy.  White people love to tone police black protest, especially if anything remotely sound violent.  The fact that whites are actively anathematizing Kaepernick concerning his very much peaceful protest is fascinating.  It lets you know a hard truth of white America: it’s not the way you protest as people of color. It’s the fact that you are protesting at all. 

White folks are that abusive power-hungry male

Make this white chick black and this will all make sense.

If you look at the collective group identities as individuals, you can clearly assess the problem at hand — it’s bullying and a system of psychological and physical violence and abuse.  White people as a collective continues to bully, harass, and silence black people as a collective.  Anything stating otherwise is denial of the fact.  Black people are the abused, and white people are the abuser.  If you look at relationship psychology surrounding abuse the abuser always has mechanisms to silence and suppress the abused victim, and white society is no different.  The abuser is in a state of dominance and will protect that position (analog: white privilege) by all means.

“This is not something that I am going to run by anybody… I am not looking for approval.  I have to stand up for people that are oppressed… If they take football away, my endorsements from me, I know that I stood up for what is right.” ~ Colin Kaepernick

When it comes to relationships, you most certainly have those who are the abused who seek to pretend the abuse isn’t there, and make their life all about appeasing the abuser at all times.  This is called a “codependency disorder”.  Codependency takes place when a person has an exaggerated dependence on other to the point that one doesn’t care for their own well-being.  This is known in relationship psychology, but is this known concerning race relations?  Codependency would look like how a black person would seek to silence and neutralize any protest concerning race relations in order to appease white people’s feelings. White feelings trumps black lives to a codependent black person, and they will always prioritize white feelings regardless of the abuse they have witnesses or suffered.  NFL Quarterback Cam Newton with his new take on racism is a great example of this.  Most people would call this a form of Stockholm Syndrome.  Others would call it something that rhymes with “tuning”, but I digress.

White People’s Outrage is Getting More Stupid

Colin Kaepernick has the right to sit or stand as he choose.  Numerous ignorant whites (or those who implicitly support white supremacy) have tried the argument that Kaepernick isn’t doing his job.  That logic is flawed, because football players don’t train to stand for national anthems. As a matter of fact, athletes are not even judged on speed, stance and form in concerning standing for national anthems.  Afterall Colin is right, and when standing up for flags are more important than standing up for people, maybe we need to reevaluate your affinity for fascism.  White America’s outrage to protest is no different than an abusive man in a relationship.

Colin Kaepernick is even more right than he realizes: The national anthem is actually longer than what it’s commonly known as, and has a part that explicitly glorifies the killing of runaway slaves:

No refuge could save the hireling and slave / From the terror of flight or the gloom of the grave // And the star-spangled banner in triumph doth wave / O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave. ~ The Star Spangled Banner, end of the third verse

Nothing could save the hireling and slave?  The national anthem said NO REFUGE could save the poor and the slave, technically.  As if, there’s no place safe for the slave descendent.  That’s Afro-Americans, people.  Considering that the national anthem has four verses instead of one, maybe it would pay to actually know what we are standing up for, and continue to question why doesn’t America stand up for us.